Understanding the Fawn Response: Why You May People-Please After Trauma

The fawn response is a survival strategy that can develop after experiencing trauma or emotionally abusive relationships. It often shows up as people-pleasing, prioritizing others’ needs over your own, or avoiding conflict at all costs in order to feel safe.

If you have experienced toxic relationships, you may notice yourself constantly adjusting to keep others happy, feeling responsible for others’ emotions, or silencing your own voice. These behaviors were once protective, helping you navigate unsafe situations.

Healing the fawn response involves becoming aware of these patterns and learning to set boundaries that honor your needs. It can be challenging, as old habits are deeply ingrained, but small, consistent steps—such as practicing assertive communication and noticing when you override your own needs—can create meaningful change.

Therapy provides a supportive space to explore the fawn response, understand its origins, and practice new ways of responding to situations that once triggered fear or compliance. Over time, it is possible to reclaim your voice and prioritize your emotional well-being without fear.

If you want support in recognizing the fawn response and developing healthier patterns, I offer online counselling across Ontario and in-person sessions in Burlington. You can book a consultation through my Jane link: https://guidingyou.janeapp.com.

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