Signs You’re Still Healing from a Toxic Relationship
Just because the relationship ended doesn’t mean the pain disappears. In fact, many women find that the real healing begins after the relationship is over, when everything starts to catch up with them.
You might be out of the relationship, but still struggling to feel like yourself. You may notice your body is tense all the time, or that you still hesitate to speak up, even in safe situations.
It’s easy to question yourself: “Why am I not over this yet?” But healing from emotional abuse and toxic relationships doesn’t happen on a timeline. It’s not about how long ago it ended but rather what you’re still carrying.
You might still be healing if:
You feel anxious when someone raises their voice, even gently.
You find yourself apologizing constantly, even when you haven’t done anything wrong.
You don’t fully trust yourself or your decisions.
You avoid getting close to others out of fear they’ll hurt you.
You still replay certain moments in your head, wondering if it really was abuse.
These are not signs of weakness, they’re signs of trauma. The fact that you’re noticing them means you're already on the path to healing. Therapy can help you untangle those patterns, gently process what happened, and rebuild your sense of safety, both in your body and your relationships.
If parts of you are still hurting from a relationship that’s long over, you’re not alone. Explore how I support women in healing from the lingering effects of emotional abuse and trauma here.
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