Relationship Anxiety: Understanding Patterns and Building Emotional Safety
Relationship anxiety refers to the worry, fear, or uncertainty that can arise in meaningful relationships. Experiencing this type of anxiety does not necessarily mean that something is “wrong” with you or your relationship. Instead, relationship anxiety may reflect past relational experiences, attachment-related patterns, or unmet emotional needs that influence how safe or secure you feel with someone.
Each person’s experience of relationship anxiety is unique. It may be influenced by earlier relational wounds, attachment tendencies, low self-worth, fear of rejection, or life transitions. These experiences can understandably affect how someone interprets interactions within relationships, particularly during moments of vulnerability or emotional closeness.
Relationship anxiety can show up in different ways, such as overthinking or replaying conversations, worrying about being “too much” or “not enough,” seeking repeated reassurance, or having difficulty trusting one’s own judgment. These responses often emerge as attempts to create a sense of safety, even when they become exhausting or overwhelming over time.
While relationship anxiety can feel consuming, there are supportive ways to slow these cycles and develop a greater sense of emotional security. Increasing awareness of patterns is often a helpful first step. Mindfulness practices may also support individuals in staying grounded in the present moment and reducing spirals of “what if” thinking.
Therapy can offer a safe and collaborative space to explore the roots of relationship anxiety and to develop tools that may support emotional regulation, self-trust, and healthier relational experiences. With support, many people find they can strengthen confidence, emotional awareness, and their sense of security within relationships.
If you’re interested in support to explore relationship patterns, I offer psychotherapy services online across Ontario and in person in Burlington. You’re welcome to book a free consultation here:
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Written by Cierra DoCouto, Registered Psychotherapist, CRPO #17131
