How to Stop Overthinking After a Toxic Relationship

Overthinking is one of the most common struggles after leaving a toxic relationship. Many women describe replaying conversations in their minds, worrying about what they could have done differently, or doubting every decision. Even after the relationship ends, your mind may feel stuck in a loop.

This is because overthinking is often a way the nervous system tries to protect you. If you were in an environment where you were criticized, gaslit, or made to feel unsafe, your brain may stay on high alert in order to prevent future harm. The cycle of replaying and analyzing becomes a way to scan for danger, even when the danger is no longer present.

There are gentle practices that can help break the cycle of overthinking. Mindfulness can help you notice when you are caught in spirals and bring yourself back to the present moment. Grounding techniques, such as noticing what you see, hear, and feel around you, can help calm your nervous system. Writing down your thoughts and setting them aside to revisit later can also give your mind permission to rest.

With support and practice, it is possible to calm the racing thoughts and reconnect with a sense of inner peace. Therapy can offer tools to help you feel safe enough to quiet your mind and begin to trust yourself again.

If you would like support in managing overthinking and finding calm after a toxic relationship, I offer online counselling across Ontario and in-person therapy in Burlington. You can book a consultation here: https://guidingyou.janeapp.com.

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