Healing from Trauma Bonds with a Narcissist

A trauma bond is an intense emotional attachment that develops in abusive relationships, often making it difficult to leave even when the relationship is harmful. Women in narcissistic relationships may experience cycles of idealization and devaluation, creating a bond that feels addictive and confusing.

Recognizing a trauma bond is the first step toward breaking free. Common signs include obsessive thinking about the abuser, justifying abusive behavior, and feeling unable to function emotionally without the relationship. Understanding that these responses are rooted in trauma—not personal weakness—can help you cultivate self-compassion.

Therapy can support you in processing trauma, identifying unhealthy patterns, and developing coping strategies. Techniques may include mindfulness, journaling, and establishing strict boundaries. Over time, these tools help reduce the emotional pull of the trauma bond, restore self-trust, and empower you to form healthier relationships.

If you want support in breaking trauma bonds and healing from narcissistic abuse, I offer online counselling across Ontario and in-person sessions in Burlington. You can book a consultation here: https://guidingyou.janeapp.com.

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